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Oct 29th, 2007, 01:19 am

Instead of writing this entry as an essay, I’ve decided to walk on the wild side and turn it into an easy-to-read list.

Happenings around the country:

  • Yesterday, Argentines went out to the polls to elect the next president of the nation. As an ignorant American, I hardly followed the presidential race, so I’m not the right person to ask about its possible outcomes. I truly feel dumb for not pay attention to something this important. I promised myself on many occasions I would read the local and national news everyday, but you can tell how that turned out. However, I do know that voting is obligatory for those that are eligible and below the age of sixty. There’s a fine if you don’t vote, but I heard that law is weakly enforced.
  • A Spanish company opened the first gay hotel in Latin America on Friday in the artsy Buenos Aires neighborhood of San Telmo. At US$200 a night, it’s pretty expensive, especially for this country. It’s geared towards foreign tourists. No, I haven’t been there, nor do I plan on going.
  • The weather is heating up. Highs have reached the late 70s and low 80s while lows have been in the 50s and 60s. All temperatures in Fahrenheit, not that crazy Celsius stuff they use everywhere except the US.

What’s going on in Hasan’s life:

  • I turned twenty-two on October 1. Man, I’m so old. Although I didn’t have a party, my host mom still baked a cake. She, my host brother, my host brother’s son, and I celebrated the twenty-second year of my almost-mythical presence on the planet. Instead of inviting my friends for a party that time, I decided to postpone it until after Ramadan. After delaying it for so long, I threw it two Fridays ago. My host mom, who’s seventy, prepared food all day for it. She made empanadas (a stuffed pastry), pasta, and a delicious cake. What an awesome host mom! My friends and I had a great time, although I wish we could’ve had more time to ourselves and not with my host family and their relatives.
  • Although my host mom takes care of me as if I was her own son, she pisses me off at times. She has a tendency to force people to eat, even after they repeatedly tell her no thanks. It may sound cute, but it really, really, really, really gets to me. A few days ago, we were in the kitchen eating dinner, and while I was chewing away, my host mom got up and put more milanesa, or breaded beef, on the stove. While she was doing that, she told me there’s more milanesa. I told her I didn’t want anymore. And then she said “vas a comer” (“you’re going to eat”). And then she sat down and said she put the milanesa for me. I said “no quiero” (“I don’t want any”). And then she started mocking me by saying “¡no quiero, no quiero, no quiero!” like a little kid. I was extremely, extremely pissed. I don’t get why she can’t take no for an answer. Ugh. I didn’t even smile or say anything. I just looked at her and went back to finishing my food. I tried to keep my cool. When she put the milanesa on my plate. I didn’t say thank you or anything, but I did tell her I only wanted half of one piece. Her food is really good, but sometimes I just friggin’ don’t want to eat anymore! It’s called being full! Besides her annoying inclination to essentially force food down your throat, we generally get along well.
  • My research over Muslim identity in Buenos Aires has progressed rapidly. Very little information exists about the old but growing Argentine Muslim community, so I’m one of the few to seriously studying it. I have to write twenty-five to thirty pages, but I’m nearly done. I’ve never written a paper that long, much less in another language, so it’s quite a bit of work. On the bright side, since it’s entirely in Spanish, my writing skills in that language have improved, and my vocabulary has increased considerably.

  • Besides my independent research project, I have two other classes. They’re… okay. They’re not badly taught or unorganized; they’re just a bit dry for me. Or maybe it’s because I have difficulty following the lectures. Even though I understand Spanish very well, I still can’t get much meaning out of class lectures. Plus, I really miss participating in class discussions. I’ve only raised my hand to participate once this semester because I get really nervous speaking Spanish in front of twenty-something people. Well, I usually don’t understand what the professor is talking about, so I can’t participate anyway.
  • I’ve conducted several interviews with members of the Muslim community as a part of my research. To ensure that I can quote with accuracy, I record these chats with my iPod (I bought the microphone ten days ago at a small electronics store for a hefty 290 pesos, or US$91.52; it cost $44 on Amazon.com when I got it, but I had no choice but to buy it at a ridiculously jacked up price here). After listening to the interviews, I’ve realized I sound weird in Spanish. I had barely heard myself conversing in this language in any recordings, so this was news. I seem to have fairly good pronunciation and grammar, but my intonation is so not Argentine. I think I have a fairly neutral accent, which is far better than having a horrendous American one. I guess that’s fine, but I’d really like to speak with the Buenos Aires accent, which has much in common with the Italian accent. Now that I know how I sound, I try harder to change my cadence and intonation when I speak Spanish. Some people say I sound expressionless, so I don’t know how far I’ll get with that…
  • My two closest American friends in Buenos Aires took me out for dinner Saturday night at T.G.I. Friday’s in Alto Palermo Shopping, a mall where the city’s rich and beautiful buy their expensive Timberland boots, to celebrate my birthday. As I’ve mentioned, I turned twenty-two on October 1. Since we’re all Muslim, we decided to wait until after Ramadan ends to eat out. We chose T.G.I. Friday’s because we spent much of the holy month reminiscing about American food, such as chicken tenders and chicken wings. I spent many a night talking about my love for chicken tenders, so I was quite excited for our outing. Sadly, they turned out to be so-so. They lacked the flavor and spiciness of American chicken tenders, but that hardly surprised me because, after all, this is Argentina, a country better known for its succulent beef and delicious pastries rather than food with zing. One thing I didn’t understand was how the menu said the sodas included refills. However, when we were given the check, the waitress explained that the price includes just one refill. Uh, I don’t get it. It cost as much as two sodas in any restaurant in this city, so how does paying for two glasses for the price of two count as including a refill?

    Nevertheless, we really enjoyed ourselves. We marveled at the Americaness of the joint. Although American movies, music, fashion, and fast-food restaurants pretty much dominate this country, they’re so common that they don’t invoke feelings of nostalgia. Restaurants like T.G.I. Friday’s, however, are rare. The little things about it, like booth seating, which I haven’t seen anywhere else in Argentina, really made me feel like I was back home. Last night, I finally realized how my parents must feel when they’re in a Bangladeshi or Indian store in the US.

  • Today marks my thirty-sixth week in South America. My time here is almost up. Insha’Allah, I’ll leave for the motherland on the night of December 24 and arrive home the following day, just in time to open the presents from Santa. Although I miss my family and friends, I wish I could stay in Buenos Aires longer. I finally speak the language well, know the city’s hotspots, and have a group of great friends. It took me nine months to get to this level, and I’ll soon have to leave it all behind.

Bueno, ya está. Tengo que levantarme relativamente temprano porque tengo una reunión a las 11:00 de la mañana, así que tengo que acostarme. ¡Buenas noches!

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2007-10-29 20:14:06
Aina

I find it absolutely amazing that you’ve improved in Spanish so much and are able to write your thesis in Spanish (and I’m you’ve stayed in Argentina not for a long time).

I know exactly what you mean when people stuff food down your throat even after you’ve told them that you had enough. It can get extremely annoying, but meh… to the least I think of it as their intentions weren’t bad.

Hope you have a wonderful time enjoying your last days in Argentina!

2007-10-31 02:29:09
sillybachi

About the force-feeding issue…I have relatives like that (mostly my dad’s side)…whenever we visit, they literally cook for an army and then force us to eat all the food.
It’s nice of them to put in so much effort, and we really appreciated their concern, but I just don’t like eating to the point where I feel like I’m about to burst.

I think it’s a cultural thing..we’re just not used to it b/c in America everyone is always “on a diet” and nobody really pushes anyone to eat. In fact, it feels like people are discouraged from eating sometimes.

I agree with you that she took it a little too far by putting food in your plate, but you have to take into consideration her age (I’ve read that people’s rationality diminishes as they age) and that she probably thinks she’s being a really good hostess. I can imagine the same situation happening in any of our South Asian countries. It’s annoying, but you kind of have to bear it because she’s only trying to make you feel at home.

Either that, or she’s trying to fatten you up…like that witch in the fairy-tale “Hansel and Gretel”… :)

2007-10-31 17:01:11
Hasan

Aina: I’m amazed as well. I can’t believe I went from hardly understand the language to writing such a massive paper in it. This is what living abroad does to you!

sillybachi: I’m not sure if it’s a cultural thing here, at least in my experience. I think it’s just my host mom. She even forces her 60-something-year-old sister to eat, and she makes it very clear that she doesn’t want to eat anymore. I’m trying not to be so hard on her, but I can’t deny that being forced to it annoys me. Oh well. At least she has the best intentions! The whole dieting thing here is pretty big, especially for women. You hardly see any obese people here, and so many women are thin as a stick. I’ve heard from a lot of American students living with Argentine families how the females in their host families hardly eat anything. In fact, Argentina has one of the highest rates of eating disorders in the world.

2007-10-31 19:43:23
Ashi

I like this list format…I’m working on a similar one for my blog!

Happy belated birthday! Umm…as far as your host mom goes…don’t all Desi moms do the same thing??? I thought they did!

2007-11-02 03:52:12
Usman

Salaam,

I randomly stumbled upon your blog after doing a Google image search for mosques in Argentina (I was curious to know whether or not such a thing existed…plus I have a test tomorrow, so the oddest forms of procrastination can be expected) and decided to give into my inner stalker by reading up (again, anything but studying). I think what you’re doing with regard to your thesis is pretty sweet, especially since Latin America is probably the last place one would think of when envisioning the diaspora of Muslims across the globe.

Anyway, insha’Allah I’ll be spending the next semester abroad in Barcelona, and although I’m not the most religious of people, it’s great to see that keeping up with one’s faith is do-able while in such a situation. I can only hope that my experience is a similar one.

Hope your trip ends well.

2007-11-02 09:29:38
Hasan

Ashi: Thanks! Ha ha, I guess you’re right. Pretty much all desi moms do the same thing. Fortunately, my mom stopped force-feeding me when I was little.

Usman: Sometimes procrastination leads to the best Google searches! I don’t know why, but I’ve found many interesting sites when I was supposed to be studying.

Yeah, there are definitely Muslims in this part of the world. Unfortunately, the Internet has very little information about Muslims in Latin America (in both Spanish or English). Before I came to Argentina, I did a lot of searches about the Muslims here, but I didn’t find much. After being here for so long, I’ve realized that the community does a bad job of documenting their activities and sharing their culture with others. There’s a lot going on in the Argentine Muslim community, but you wouldn’t know about it unless you were here. I hope to share what I’ve found about Argentine Muslims to the rest of the world so that more people will be aware that there are Muslims so far south.

2007-11-06 16:47:22
yasmine

yay, bullet points! I loved reading this post. Your 9months in Argentina sound like an amazing experience, and I’m only sorry didn’t begin reading your weblog sooner, so that I could have followed the progress of your experiences there. Ah vell, I guess I shall have to stalk the archives, then!

2007-11-06 17:25:25
sillybachi

Wow…it sucks that women there don’t eat…guess I wouldn’t fit in there..I loveee food! What’s with this growing trend of not eating? I just don’t get it.

And I guess your host mom just has behavior problems lol maybe she just likes to force people to eat because it gives her a sense of power or something..I know some desi women feel really empowered when people eat their food, as strange as that sounds.

P.S. why do you always make us do math before posting?? why can’t we have vocabulary words or something…i hate math :(

2007-11-06 23:15:40
Hasan

Yasmine: Yep. It has been amazing. You haven’t missed out on too many of my posts — I barely posted last semester, so there’s not much about my trip. But yeah, look in the archives!

Sillybachi: Looking good is all about being (ridiculously) skinny these days. But there’s just so much good food out there that has to be eaten…

Wait, some desi women really feel empowered when people eat their food? I wonder if there are psychological studies done on this.

You have to do math to keep your adding skills sharp!

2007-11-14 19:23:38
sillybachi

Ugh..the math..it just keeps getting harder and harder :-P

Have you ever tried to insult a desi woman’s food? She’d probably hit you with a frying pan. I swear aunties have cook-offs to see who can get the most compliments. Don’t mess with those aunties..

BTW…I tagged you for a meme 7 random/weird things about you…you can check out the rules on my blog :)

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